The Love Bombing stage

After that first meeting, I know I have an attraction to him already. Because I felt comfortable towards him on that very first meet up. I am someone who takes a lot of time trusting and being at ease with people I haven’t met for a long time yet and being comfortable with someone when we are physically together was one of the things I am looking for in a partner and it was effortless for him in making me feel at ease. As someone who projected himself as trustworthy, charming and kind, I fell into the trap of believing that was his true colours.

We then started talking on the phone EVERYDAY. Almost ALL DAY. Coz even though he was at work, the call was still open and I can still hear him. Even though he was out with his friends, the call was still always open and it made me feel that I can trust him because he was so open to me and always including me in his everyday life even though we were not together physically. Even though I haven’t asked him of anything, he will just willingly do it. The calls would only be cut off when I will be at work because my signal at work was not very good. But as soon as my work was finished, he will call me straight away and it would not end again. I don’t even remember what do we talk about during those times. As I’ve told earlier, the calls would go on ALL DAY. Because even though we were about to sleep, we won’t even end the call and the screen would just be open with our faces on camera and would feel like we were sleeping together even though we were miles apart.

During those early stages, he would also always ask about my thoughts, my likes and dislikes and everything about me. Like he was really interested in knowing me and all about me. And those were the exact reasons I fell for this man. Him projecting himself as this quality time kind of man that was so interested in knowing me deeply and being part of my everyday life. Then I felt that this might be it. I found my God’s gift to me and my home. My person. He even told me the times when there was a job opening on my workplace so he can transfer and the possibility of us being together and near each other coz we actually live on different towns. And that was one of his actions that made me stop and thought to myself that this man was actually serious.

But as I am looking back now, I realized it was only part of the Love Bombing stage. Coz after only a few months, the real him was slowly coming out. Very slowly that it left me puzzled “what the fuck happened to the man I thought was my safe place?”